The Power of Quitting
What feelings come up for you when you hear the word, “QUIT?” Do you feel a little uncomfortable, or maybe the thought of quitting even makes you squirm a little? Remember: YANA – you are not alone! I want to show you the positive side of quitting, and how powerfully it can serve you in moving forward in your business and in your life.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Winners never quit, and quitters never win?” or “Nobody likes a quitter?” Many of us have had this mindset for a long time, and today I want you to look at quitting in a whole new way. I want you to learn how to reframe quitting into a powerful place of starting. So let’s take a better look at what it means to quit, what kind of quitting is healthy for growth, and how you can use quitting to move yourself forward in a big way. So, to be clear, we aren’t talking about quitting your passion, we’re talking about quitting what gets in the way of your passion.
Did you know that the most successful people in the world quit all the time? That’s right – they do. The reason they quit is because they are able to say, “NO.” They use discernment and are able to evaluate and choose which things are going to help them to move forward vs. which things will not. We all have to do this every day when we are asked to take on a project or accept an offer to work with someone. Whenever we quit a job to take a new one that is in better alignment, we are STARTING. But starting requires quitting. It requires it!
Every “Yes” we give is a “No” to something else, so I want you to reframe this in a way that feels empowering instead of deflating. The word “quit” is so often associated with giving up, when in reality, it’s necessary in order to start something new. If you looked at your resume, how many jobs would you currently have if you never quit anything? I know that’s funny to think about because we might all have a dozen jobs, but that’s why quitting is necessary to move forward. So that’s REFRAME #1: Whenever you say “yes” to something, it means that you are saying “no” to something else. It’s the flipside of the same coin.
REFRAME #2: Quitting opens up space to excel in a more successful area. We all know that this is true. As we learn new skills, become better educated or master a specific skill, we do this so that we can become more successful. We want to take the next step, and in order to do that we must quit. But we must also keep in mind that when we quit, it opens the door for someone else that is a few steps behind us. It’s a win-win, and that is beautiful! You aren’t leaving a company in a bad situation by moving on – you are creating a new opportunity for someone who is rising.
REFRAME #3: You quit things before you ever start whenever you say, “no.” Remember that “No” is a complete sentence – you do not owe anyone an explanation. This is how you set your boundaries, and keep from being a people pleaser. I’m not saying that you need to refuse to help everyone or stop taking on projects. What I am saying is that you need to set healthy boundaries – think about whether or not you are the best person for the project, and how your time will best serve you and others. Is there a better use of your time? Will saying “no” help everyone at a higher level? That’s your “yes.”
Let me know how your mindset has shifted around quitting. This is a dialogue, not a monologue. This is your community; your tribe. Put your #BOL (breakthrough out loud) in the comments – I’d love to hear how you are learning, growing, moving forward, and QUITTING! Most importantly, I love you and I believe in you. Make this journey a beautiful one.
Your Sister in Abundance and Prosperity,