What To Do When Fear Is All Around You
Hi, there. Welcome back to the Lisa Nichols Show, where I share the tools that we all need and deserve to bring us into a life of abundance, love, health, wealth, freedom and connection. I love that we all engage with one another in this space – this is a beautiful community where we learn from one another and offer support and encouragement for the journey!
In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when we feel like fear is all around us. Not only is fear surrounding us, but uncertainty. People do not like to feel uncertain. It’s frustrating and it wears us down, and makes us feel weary. I remember my grandmother telling me, “Sweetheart, tired is one thing. But weary? Weary is another level.” So what can you do when fear is all around you?
Since 2020, we’ve been in a climate that has a lot of questions. We’re in a climate that has a lot of demands that we didn’t ask for. We’re in a climate that has a lot of requirements. The world seems like it will never be the same as it was, but that may not be a bad thing. So how do we navigate this new way of being in the world?
I want to share with you my top three tips for dealing with fear, internal and external, because one of the things that I noticed is that fear can be adopted. There are times when I woke up in the morning and I felt no fear. Then, by the time I went to bed that night, I had all kinds of stuff I was worrying about. I didn’t realize that a lot of the worries that I had by the time I went to bed were handed to me through a conversation, through the news, through me watching someone else’s life or journey. This fear wasn’t even mine, but it was keeping me up at night. Isn’t that crazy? So let’s get to those top three tips for dealing with fear.
Tip #1 – Talk about it.
Don’t just let that fear eat away at you silently – get it out of your head and talk about it. You will see how quickly it loses its power when you say it out loud. When you start talking about the facts surrounding your fear, rather than just sitting in the emotion, you put yourself in the driver’s seat. We can get so bogged down with everyone else’s emotions and opinions, but in order to quiet the fear, we need logic and facts. Facing your fear head-on, and stepping right into it makes you feel courageous, and it reduces the uncertainty by helping you to understand the fear and where it came from. That’s powerful.
Be sure to find someone who will talk through your fear logically with you, not someone who is going to feed more fear into you. You know who I’m talking about – talk to your friend who will be able to help you process it in a rational way, not the one who is running through the streets yelling that the sky is falling. Who we share our fear with is important, so choose carefully.
Tip #2 – Turn your fear into your fuel
Oh, I have done this so many times. Fear is not a bad thing. We have a relationship with fear as if fear is designed to paralyze us or that fear is designed to stop us, or fear is designed to immobilize us or make us worry. What if, instead of letting fear paralyze us, we allowed it to fuel us? I have done some of the biggest things in my life fueled by fear.
You don’t have to be courageous when you leap. You just have to have a little courage blended with the fear, turning your fear into your fuel. And how do you do that? You ask yourself, “How can this moment help me?” During the pandemic, when it first all started in 2020, I honestly was afraid that I was going to go back to my old weight. I don’t know if you saw me back then, but if you did, you know I used to be 93 pounds heavier than I am now. For 19 years, I was over 210 pounds, and I was fearful about going back.
I had just moved here to the Bahamas, and 42 days after moving here, I’m on the beach; I’m relaxing. I’m with the love of my life, and all of a sudden I’m shut down. I’m no longer traveling. I’m no longer moving. I’m no longer on stage. I had a fear. I never wanted that old weight to come back again.
So, you’d see me in my house doing curls with the broom and resistance bands on the bottom of the broom and me standing on it. You’d see me doing push ups. You’d see me on cinder blocks, pulling up water bottles. This all stemmed from the fear of gaining back the weight. What happened by the end of 2020? I was more toned, more fit, and 12 pounds lighter. I turned my fear into fuel. And you can, too.
Tip #3 – Remember that this is just a season
Don’t make a season a lifetime. If you’re going through a difficult moment, a fearful moment, a down moment, then do just that. Go through it. Now, you may have to stop for a moment and catch your breath, but it’s not a red light. It’s just a stop sign. Stop. Catch your breath. Remember, it’s just a season and keep going.
So many people get stuck here, because they allow their fear to become a way of life. This will make you weary. It will make it hard to move forward. But when you look at your fear as a temporary situation, you don’t allow yourself to stay there forever. It’s just a season.
Now, I want you to remember that this show is not just a monologue. This show is a delicious, dynamic conversation between adults: real talk – safe space talk. We are gladiators who are ready to shine our light and show up in this world in a big way.
This is your tribe. I’d love to hear from you. I’d love to hear about your big ah-ha today when you think about the fear or negative energy around you. How do you begin to navigate your journey through fear? You’re here. We’re in this together. We all thought this would be a sprint, just the year of 2020. That’s it. And now we realize it’s a marathon.
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Your Sister in Prosperity and Possibility,