You Have the Power
Hi there, and welcome back! Today, we’re going to talk about your power to choose your life. Do you believe me when I tell you that YOU GET TO CHOOSE THE LIFE YOU LEAD? Let’s get that established right here, right now. You are not the product of what has happened in the past, including what might be happening right now. No matter what the present moment looks like, you get to choose. Now, I’m not saying it will be easy, and it definitely may not always be comfortable, but it is always possible. And please don’t let any situation or any person make you think otherwise. While a lot of unexpected things happen to us in our lives, it doesn’t mean that we don’t get to navigate our life experiences.
You will have to become someone you may never have thought you’d have to become. You may have to do some things you never thought you’d have to do, or go some places you never thought you’d have to go, or pull some things outta you that you didn’t even know you had in you. But the truth is, you get to design your destiny. You are the author of your autobiography. You get to create your life story. You may not determine every character. Even if you’re not crazy about every person or situation, it doesn’t change the fact that no one gets to write your story but you. You must put yourself in the driver’s seat – don’t let anyone else decide your future!
So often, I meet people who don’t believe that their dreams are possible for them. They get so used to looking at other people’s lives through the windows of social media or television and they wonder, “What do I need to do to get this?” You need to remember that what you see is a very small part of the picture. People are not posting about all of the daily struggles and hard work they are putting in – they post the finished product, all shiny and perfect. When you see this, you can flip it around and ask yourself, “What did they have to do to get there? How many hours did they have to work? How many times did they fail?” We are humans, and I can promise you, none of these things happened by sheer luck. There is nothing you see that you can’t do yourself with the right mindset and belief in yourself – and the hard work.
I know it’s tempting to fall into the narrative that life should be easy. It can be easier than it is now, but you have to choose it. And then you have to choose your conviction. Choose conviction over convenience. That’s the game changer, the deciding factor. That’s what distinguishes people who are living the life they know they can live from the people who know that they deserve a better life, but they don’t have the commitment to living their conviction over their convenience. The thing that I see that holds most people back isn’t their lack of knowledge. It isn’t their lack of money. It’s not the lack of opportunity. It is their mindset.
I know what you’re facing, because I was there. You know, for maybe 13 years, I felt like I was living one version of myself, meaning I was showing up as someone who was “nice.” She was assertive, she was kind, and she was goal-oriented – but she was just like about 15% of the woman I knew myself to be. The 15% that I was putting out there impressed people, or at least it got me by. Do you know what I mean? I was doing just enough to get by, but there was so much more I could have done. When people started paying me compliments and telling me what a wonderful job I was doing, I felt like I was doing better than a lot of people around me. That’s an easy trap to fall into – feeling like you’re doing better than the people around you – because it can keep you from trying harder. How many times have you thought, “Well, at least I’m doing better than that person over there?” You can do even better. You just need to choose it!
For me, knowing that I was doing better than people around me didn’t change the fact that I knew I could do more – I had more in my heart and soul that I could bring into the world. I had to be my own “hype woman,” because that was how I was going to reach that 100%. You need to do that for yourself – be your biggest cheerleader. Sometimes you may be the only one in the stands cheering for you, and that’s okay. You have to be willing to understand that even if you get knocked down, if you can look up, you can get up. You need to recognize that if you can walk, then you can turn your walk into a run. And if you can run, man, you can turn your run into a soar. But you also need to know that even if you’re crawling, you can turn your crawl into a walk first. Start from wherever you are right now.
You’ve got to be willing to give yourself your time. Look in the mirror daily and remind yourself who you are, who you’ve become. Pat yourself on the back for who you’ve been. And then remind yourself that abundance, happiness, joy, and living on purpose is your birthright. You get to be happy in your health. You get to be happy in your wealth, and in your finances. You get to be happy in your relationships, and you get to be happy in your spirituality. So, today I extend an invitation, as your sister, for you to stand up and call your future self into the present. Stand up and demand to yourself that you transform into the next best version of you. Don’t make it optional. Demand it of yourself.
I want to give you this powerful affirmation, which is just a series of statements. These affirmations turned my crawl into a walk, and my walk into a run. And you know the rest. I had to declare it to myself even when my life didn’t look like it at all; when my life did not match my statements. I had to keep making the statements boldly until my life reflected who I know myself to be. So, please say these words every day. Say them until you believe them:
I stand here in my greatness.
I own my light.
I own my brilliance.
I am enough.
I’m bold; I’m courageous.
I am perfect in my imperfection.
This is my time.
I am bright enough.
I am old enough. – or – I am young enough.
I’ve experienced enough.
I’m wise enough.
I understand who I am.
I embrace who I choose to become.
I’m unapologetic about my intentions.
Get ready. Here I come.
I want you to save these words. Print them out and put them somewhere so you can see them. I used to have statements all over my house. I still have them in places, but I had them on my bathroom mirror. I had them posted on my refrigerator. I had one on the back of my front door and the one on the back of my back door. It’s been over 22 years. I still know what it said: “The world is ready for my greatness and I’m ready for the world.” I still remember it because it spoke to me.
When fear creeps in, when doubt creeps in, when naysayers creep in, when haters throw, and the doubt sounds louder than the possibility, turn around and look at these statements. Read them and say, “Oh, I forgot who I was. Let me remind myself I am enough!” Say these words and then keep going.
This is a judgment free zone. This is a place where you come and you can bring all your genius, and we won’t put you down for that. Or you can bring all your curiosity questions and concerns, and we won’t put you down for that, either. We’re going to love you now, and we’re going to love the person you’re becoming. So, leave a comment below and let me know which of these affirmations really set you on fire. Or, what did you need to remember? What did you need to hear? What did you need to be reminded of?
I really love to hear from you. This is a dialogue; a courageous, grown folk conversation. If you haven’t already, please make sure that you subscribe to my channel. This is the place where we come to keep moving together. Click the bell notification to be notified when new episodes drop. And remember this, every single time that I say that I believe in you and that I love you. It’s not because it’s my closing statement, or that I’ve run outta words. It’s because I truly do. And if you haven’t heard anyone say it lately, I believe in you and I love you. I’ll see you in the next episode.