Make Your Message Memorable

Hi there, and welcome back to the Lisa Nichols Show. I love having you here in this community to connect and build better lives together. You may not know it, but it matters to me and to our family that you are here with us, because together, we can achieve more, grow more, and connect more to  impact the world. I’m at the point in my career where I have learned so much through my own trials and errors that I can share that valuable information to help you on your journey.

Today, I want to tell you about some of the things that will help you become a great keynote speaker. Now you might be saying, “Lisa, I just post videos on social media. I’m not speaking to a large live audience.” That doesn’t matter. I don’t care if you’re speaking to one person, or hundreds of people. It doesn’t matter if you’re recording a video in your car, or standing on a stage in an auditorium. You need to treat your audience as if you’re speaking to a filled stadium, every time. So, I’m here to share my Top 3 Tips for making your speaking engagements more powerful and memorable and to help you connect more fully with your audience.

#1 – Make it a Dialogue, not a Monologue

You know what I say every time I speak with you: I want it to be a two-way conversation, whether you’re coming to see me at a live event, or you’re watching a video like this one. You need to get your audience involved—make their story as important as your own. Your audience wants you to speak with them, not at them. There’s a big difference between those two things. 

To get people involved, you can ask questions, or have them participate in some way. If you have a live audience, maybe say something like, “Raise your hand if you’ve ever experienced something like this.” Lots of people will raise their hands and nod their heads, because now you’ve got them engaged in the dialogue. They’re paying attention, letting you know that they can relate to what you’re saying. This helps you as a speaker, too.

If you’re on a Zoom or other platform, speaking to a virtual audience, invite them to participate in the chat. You could say, “Tell me where you are on a scale of 1-10.” You’ll watch the chat box fill up with answers, and now you’ve got a dialogue. Or in the case of a pre-recorded video like this one, I always ask you to share in the comments section. It gets you involved in the conversation, and I love that.

#2 – Add Sparkle and Zest

We are all some kind of artist—so add some sparkle that attracts your audience by catching their attention with fun clothing, beautiful staging, music, or whatever speaks to you and your listeners. I love to have a simple, yet beautiful stage. Maybe you would like to use colored lighting behind you, or have photography or an accent piece that is eye-catching. Using relevant music is always great—you know when you go see a really dynamic speaker, and there is high energy music playing when they come on stage? That’s all part of the speaking engagement, whether you realize it or not, because it gets your attention and makes the speaker more interesting before they even open their mouth.

I recently spoke at an event where all of the speakers wore elaborate headpieces. You can choose clothing or wear a costume that is connected to your message. Know your audience. If you’re speaking to a group of spirited entrepreneurs, get creative and fun. Use whatever spark you can to elevate your speaking event and make it more engaging for your audience.

#3 – Always Play Full Out

Always. Say it with me, “Always play full out.” If you’re going to show up, SHOW UP. Don’t hold back—be generous with your energy, and give your audience 100% every time you speak. I mean this sincerely, whether you have 1 audience member or 100, they will feel how much you’ve put into it. Share your gifts with the audience—give them everything you have in that moment. Look at every speaking opportunity not only to share your message, but to share your gifts with the world. 

Whether your gift is the gift of intuition, or beautiful energy, grace and ease, or it’s the gift of high energy and motivation, or it’s the gift of wisdom. Maybe you’re an intellect and you want to share the intellect that you have. Whatever your gifts are, they are meant to be shared with the world, so share them full out – don’t hold back!

This speaks to your authenticity as a speaker, as well. Your vulnerability is important. Share that story about your struggles, and what you had to overcome to get this far. Don’t hold back out of fear; be in it to win it. No matter how many people or what the circumstances, always give everything you’ve got at every speaking opportunity, and your audience will connect with your message and with you.

Now, I hope this helps you, and just like I mentioned above, this show is not a monologue. This entire show is a dialogue. I would love to hear from you. What’s the biggest a-ha that you had based on what I shared? What’s something that you’ve been doing and you go, “Oh my God, Lisa, I get it.” Or what’s something that you want to begin to do but you still don’t quite know how to do it and you’d like my advice on it? Type in the chat here. Let me know exactly what you thought about this episode, how it brought value, or ask any question that it brought up for you. This is your home and we are your tribe. If you’ve been with me for a while, you have heard me say this before: I truly do love you and believe in you. I look forward to seeing you real soon.

Your Sister in Prosperity and Possibility, 

35 replies
  1. Alina Kadhila
    Alina Kadhila says:

    Dear Meme Lisa

    Thank you so much for reaching out time and again and continuously pouring into my cup. I know you meet many many of us daily , I was one of the winners of a beautiful gift of a Thrive to Inspire in 2023 .

    From the message you just shared, I constantly use dialogue and I’m so happy to hear you recommend it, I’ve seen its effect in action. I also like to bring the Zest and just my high energy in general.

    There was a point I struggled with this , mainly because I have been shut down , being told to tone it down as I am apparently too much /too loud / too hyper , and it’s not very modest to be like that .

    I struggle from time to time , as I think for a very long time , I have been conditioned to read the room and adjust to its temperature. Even when I know I am to be myself and not hide my gift from the world.

    I’d very much like to hear how you can guide me on getting past this .

    I have been handed a few opportunities to speak on various stages , and I can say I am getting better by the day . And I appreciate you so much .

    My dream is to one day attend your live and in -person camps / events .

    Love ;
    Alina , Namibia (Africa)

  2. M Evelyn White
    M Evelyn White says:

    I adore you. Thank you so much for the excellent tips on speaking publicly I needed that. Will continually listen to your podcast and videos thank you Evelyn White.

  3. Bishop Tonja Williams
    Bishop Tonja Williams says:

    Hi, Lisa as always what a wonderful and valuable message. All of these points are amazing. Questions that I have 1. As a preacher who travel to speak, 1. How do I make my sermons a dialogue. I don’t like the traditional ways “ tell your neighbor” etc. 2. How do I make my stage beautiful when many time the stage is already set up? Lastly, 3. I need help bringing my message alive on my own personal stages.

  4. Dee
    Dee says:

    Dear Lisa you are truly an inspiration. You keep finding ways to Whao me.
    I have not acted on anything yet for myself since I first met you years ago online but I am better off and more prepared to help someone else and I do give you credit. I am a funnel to younger people.

  5. Victor Lopez
    Victor Lopez says:

    Thank you Lisa for sharing this amazing information. Very kind and generous of you. Your second point on adding sparkle and zest is spot on. Having colored lighting and playing music before coming on really catches an audience attention. Gets them into it before you even say a single word.

  6. Rajakumari sakthivadivelu
    Rajakumari sakthivadivelu says:

    Hi Lisa,

    “Play full out “,
    “ whether your gift is the gift of intuition, gift of wisdom, whatever your gifts, they are meant to be shared with the world, so play full out”
    That’s the message deeply connected with me and echoing in me.

    I see you as an angel at the side of my road in this journey i m taking to my next level sister, thank you for all the work that you are doing ❤️

  7. Hortense Rowe
    Hortense Rowe says:

    Hello Lisa (Sis) Thank once again for your teaching and inspiration.. I always find your messages quite valuable to me. Being truly honest you always touch my soul. I know it got it in me and you are stirring up that gift. My soul is crying out to speak, and I am learning so much from you. Before I started to take your courses, and listening to you, I was lost, not knowing where to begin. I have now grown so much, and is on the right path to be a memorable speaker. I am taking in all the nuggets you are sharing. I just believe in my heart you are the most powerful speaker, because you are real, and you reach the hearts and soul of you audiences. Much Love Sis. Blessings! And a huge THANK YOU. Hortense Rowe

  8. Devell Hawkins
    Devell Hawkins says:

    Hello everyone, Devell Hawkins. I’m one of the most important/powerful speakers of this generation. I have a special connection with the youth and young adults. But I struggle when it comes to landing speaking gigs. Lisa, this where I can use your help and also learn a lot of other things from you. Although, my confidence may stand out, I’m a constant student of the game and I applaud every speaker out there. So, good job everyone, continue to let your voice be heard.

  9. Empress
    Empress says:

    Finally going to put all of this good information into practice in a 14 day challenge of posting more content. Great pointers that I will definitely use.

  10. Irine Asanji
    Irine Asanji says:

    Hi sister Lisa.
    Thank you for blessing me with this beautiful message. I needed to hear this. Thank you for teaching me how to be more engaging and conversational in my approach regardless of the platform or medium. There’s never a dull moment spending time in your community and I cannot wait to implement all I’ve learnt from you in my upcoming event. How timely! Thank you for never hesitating to be a blessing. It would have costed me what learnt today. You play full out ALWAYS. Your 100 % always!!! I love you sister ♥️
    God Bless you More so you can keep doing MORE GOOD! .

  11. Irine Asanji
    Irine Asanji says:

    Hi sister Lisa.

    Thank you for blessing me with this beautiful message. I needed to hear this. Thank you for teaching me how to be more engaging and conversational in my approach regardless of the platform or medium. There’s never a dull moment spending time in your community and I cannot wait to implement all I’ve learnt from you in my upcoming event. How timely! Thank you for never hesitating to be a blessing. It would have costed me what I learnt today. You play full out ALWAYS. Your 100 % always!!! I love you sister ♥️
    God Bless you More so you can keep doing MORE GOOD! .

  12. Tammy
    Tammy says:

    My aha is the background of my videos. I struggle with creating a background that is either bland or too busy. I am trying to find balance so that my message comes through and that my listeners are not distracted by what’s behind me.

  13. Shelmina Abji
    Shelmina Abji says:

    I love your message about bringing 100 percent of you on the stage.. I advise women to do that in their workplaces and every meeting as that is our stage at work. Thank you!

  14. Shauna
    Shauna says:

    Love the simplicity of the message Lisa! I would love to hear more about different types of pizazz that can be added to speaking events via virtual events.

  15. Bette Wilder
    Bette Wilder says:

    You shake my inner core!! I hear you the difference between monologue and dialogues . I can see the audience ‘s desire for dialogue and have them participating. I got this!! As far as attires, that is the area that I need to work on. I am in the process of losing weight and strengthening my health and well-being! Thank you !! Sister!!

  16. Shandra
    Shandra says:

    I was watching this video and my 4 year old came up and said “ what is her name” I said “ Lisa” my little girl sat and watched her, she said “ she is talking to me and she likes me “. I just thought it was amazing how even a 4 year old could feel Lisa’s connection. My little girl watched the video all the way to the end and said “ I really like Her”.

  17. Lynda M. Mendez
    Lynda M. Mendez says:

    Thank you so much! I have to give a speech tomorrow, and your tips were SO helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!

  18. Ingrid
    Ingrid says:

    Lisa, I know everyone has a story to tell. I am not sure what my story is. I know you need a topic people want to hear. I know I have one just not sure what it is and how to deliver. I have been at a job for over 12 yeas, no room for growth. Finally, the acct. is closing, I truly believe this is God’s way of telling me it is time for change. Would like some advice, perhaps a topic that can capture an audience and coach.


  19. Nadine
    Nadine says:

    I love that you say it should be a dialogue, that is what I want to do! When it is one on one, I am energetic, funny and authentic and then I change when it is an audience. I don’t want to change!! I want to be the same. So that is what I will practice…”make it a dialogue”. Thanks Lisa

  20. Puseletso Khoathela
    Puseletso Khoathela says:

    Thank you , Lisa. You are always the power pushing me towards my dream. This arrived at the right time, when I am discouraged but it gives me the fire and hope. This your episode will bring positive outputs I promise.

  21. Audrey
    Audrey says:

    Hi Lisa,

    I’ve watched you for a few years now and have always admired you. I just recently became a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and want to make the most of my gifts. When you said diolgue that made alot of sense. Sometimes I wonder I should to a YouTube Channel, but I don’t know how exactly to begin.

  22. Nadya
    Nadya says:

    Hello Lisa
    Love and Gratitude from Switzerland ‍♀️ thanks for your inspiring stuff and thanks for asking
    The above video is linked in content with the other one one my site, “The Future is Now”
    If you can find 26 minutes, you can watch them both and get a grasp on what i’m up to. Ideally the vision is to create futuristic villages (like fractals) implementing and metering the two quotes in The Future is Now. Then in these places create a comedy sitcom portraying what the infrastructure might transform into, to house a next level human being. In fact i think that creating a podcast “The Future is Now” within the sitcom it can reach and Serve a broader audience and we can benefit from creating spinoffs to have a ROI from this on the dedicated Mazviita (Thank You) website which is what i’m looking into creating now.
    i just want to say that after three days of me on iMovie trying to put it together, i said ok, this is too much for me to do all alone!! And as soon as the intention came to pray and ask for support! The name Arber came to mind. Now Arber is Albanian and he lives two doors down. Well, he did the editing and we overcame the language barrier ☀️ it’s a start and i’m excited at the thought of you checking it out, reading between the lines, and seeing the potential
    Thank you soooo much!!!
    i met your friend Lee Richter in Rome last year and i was like WOW! You know Lisa?! ‍♀️
    i’d LOVE your insights
    Thank you so much

  23. taj muhammad
    taj muhammad says:

    Waw Waw Lisa it t is always an Ahaa whenever I listen to any talk of yours, whether two minutes or two hours.
    Always I feel encouraged and enthusiastic and become bold and have trust in myself and my message,
    Thank you very much for the video.

  24. dawn ravenel
    dawn ravenel says:

    I love these tips and suggestions, I want to be an impactful speaker and I know I have something that only I can give to the world, and my time is now.

  25. Donnette Anglin
    Donnette Anglin says:

    Thank you, Lisa . You’re the best at what you do and I am always excited to learn from you.
    Thank you for being you.

  26. Martha Botha
    Martha Botha says:

    Thank you for the tips and advice. I struggle with talking infront of people. Even though I know what I am going to talk about. It’s like everything will go blank! And my work sometimes requires public speaking. I just get nervous. I thought maybe it’s because I overthink things too much, or self esteem. Sometimes I will tell myself I can do this, when the time comes! Blank, nervousness.

  27. Deb
    Deb says:

    i always admire your energy, passion, and how authentic you are, and the great advice you offer. I cannot say exactly where life is taking me, but I have completed a writing project and am in the process of going over all with a fine tooth comb, while looking for an editor. A random question would be with my ever changing title. The latest is “Walking Into The Light Without Sight; A New Vision For What Is Possible”. In this spiritual memoir, i share my experiences of losing loved ones, questioning an afterlife, and the need to face incurable blindness, and how this unexpected search for answers opened the door to spirit. I never thought i would write a book,, blind, let alone about our ability to connect to spirit. I listen to your videos and appreciate you, and all that you offer. Thank you.

  28. Weena
    Weena says:

    Hi Beautiful Lisa!

    This is so timely for me as I have a big important presentation that I will be “delivering” at the end of the month. I will be speaking to an executive in my line of business and they will be making a decision on where I will ultimately report to. I wish to stay where I am. Although know the universe has its plan for me! Do you have any recommendations for me- I will have about 5 -7 minutes to present!

  29. Aturia
    Aturia says:

    As I read this, I thought about the first time I saw and heard your story… Awesome! What I hear you saying here is to be ME. I love an interactive audience because it lets you know they’re listening. I just want them remember their WHY. Thanks for sharing.


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