How to Disempower Negative Thoughts
You know how much I LOVE to create delicious, dynamic conversations around topics that you need help with.
Recently, a member of our tribe of gladiators, unicorns and change agents asked, “Lisa, how do I avoid negative thoughts that sabotage my mission and my relationships?”
Now THIS is a topic I know a little something about…so get ready for some real talk!
First of all, let me be clear. You CANNOT avoid negative thoughts. Everyone has them. So, the question you really want to ask is how do I MANAGE and DISEMPOWER my negative thoughts?
Here’s the deal…when negative thoughts come up, you need to pull from your mental file of past evidence to dissipate them. You need to show that current thought you have evidence. You need to say…
Hold on…I have evidence that I could do this.
Hold on…I have evidence that I communicate well.
Hold on…I have evidence that I can transform my life.
You see, when people are involved in personal development and have negative thoughts, they somehow think they’ve failed. Again, we all have them. The trick is to have the thought; then stop and say, “You’re not real. You’re a story I’m making up. Here is the evidence.” Then, move through it.
By the way, the more you manage negative conversations, the fewer you have. The more you strengthen your possibility and intention muscle, the more you become adept at proving to yourself that your dreams are a good investment.
Sounds easy, right? But how do you do it?
Here are 3 strategies I personally use to minimize and break down negative thoughts sooner, quicker and faster, so that I don’t take out real estate in them!
#1– Stay in Radical, Forward-Moving Action.
Now, I need to be very clear. What I DON’T mean is to stay in the action of busy-ness. We love to be busy. We’re all so busy being busy and 98-99% of the time our state of being busy only gives us evidence that busy-ness matters. What I’m talking about is FORWARD-MOVING, RADICAL ACTION that will make a difference in your future. Radical action that moves you step-by-step closer toward achieving your dream and goals.
#2 — Write Down your Milestones.
Most people are looking to hit a big goal but forget to document the milestones along the way that let you know you’re moving in the right direction. When it takes a long period of time to get to a goal because the GOAL IS BIG, you can start having negative thoughts because it’s taking so long to get there. Yet, there were probably at least 7 milestones you forgot to acknowledge along the path. OMG when I figured that one out, cause my goals have been GINORMOUS, it was a game changer. I had a goal to transform a million lives. Do you know how long it took me to get to a million? I had to first hit 10,000, then 20,000, then 100,000 etc. I literally had to stop for a moment and celebrate each milestone. Why? Because what gets celebrated gets repeated. Trust me, it’s very difficult to beat yourself up during a celebration.
#3 — Ask Someone to Hold you Accountable.
Get yourself an accountability partner. Make sure you choose someone who’s not afraid of you. Someone who is running as fast or faster than you or might be a little further along. Someone who believes in you and who you’re becoming, NOT who you’ve been. Someone to hold you to your greatness and won’t let you take out real estate in negative conversation. Someone who is serious about their job and committed to keeping you moving toward your goal.
I love reading your comments, so please share your thoughts, AHAs and #BOLs (breakthrough out loud) with me. Have you been beating yourself up about having negative thoughts when you could work on moving through them with grace and ease vs. avoiding them? How did this episode serve you?
It’s my goal to remind you each week that I love you and I believe in you. I POSITIVELY do!
Your Sister in Prosperity and in Possibility,