Tips for Stepping into your Power
A question I get asked a lot is, “Lisa, how do I step into my power?”
Raise your hand if you’ve ever wondered that yourself. I see those hands waving in the air. Trust me when I say #YANA (you are not alone).
That’s why this week, I’m going to share some tips on not only how to STEP INTO your power, but more importantly, how to STAY in your power – even when things around you are turbulent…when things around you are uncertain…or when things around you are constantly changing.
#1 – Understand your power is always there.
The number one way to step and stay in your power is to understand that your power is always with you–even when you don’t feel like you have it. You see, your power, your strength, your resiliency, and your tenacity are not determined by the weather outside or politics or social movements or health conditions. Your power and your resiliency are ALWAYS there. Some days it’s active, and you’re living in your power…you’re owning it…you’re walking with it…you’re walking beside it…you’re walking in front of it. Power is everywhere around you. And on other days, you have it, but you set it on the shelf temporarily.
No one took it away from you. I know there are times we may feel powerless, but no one can take your power. No one. You may have to dig into your reserves. You may have to think about it differently. But power is always yours. You’re always in the driver’s seat of your life. Now, I know that things may happen to you, but I promise you that there’s a point when you can slide right back into the driver’s seat.
#2 – Sliding back into your power.
Years ago, I was in an abusive relationship and felt like I lost my power. Whenever you feel this way…like you lost your power…what you’ve really lost sight of is who you are and who you’ve always been.
So, how do you remind yourself?
Affirmations. Take post-it notes with affirmations and stick them wherever you spend time. The first place I stuck them was on the bathroom mirror, so that while I was brushing my teeth I could look up and see a reminder to get back into my power. I saw a note that said “Lisa, you are built from greatness…Lisa, you’re a divine being…Lisa, you’re a child of God…Lisa, greatness is your birthright…Lisa, happiness is your birthright.” I put these notes on my headboard and on the back of my front door. I would go to bed and see a note that said, “Lisa, you only have to accept healthy love.” I would walk out of my house and see a note that said, “Lisa, you are ready for the world and the world needs you.”
Those affirmations were instrumental in getting me back up and back into my power. Turning my crawl into a walk, and my walk into a run, and my run into a soar. So, if you really want to get back in your power, you need to remind yourself of who you’ve always been.
Another strategy is to find people who can remind you of who you’ve been. People who can pour into your ears and into your soul. People you can call and say, “Can you remind me of what a great mom I am?” “Can you tell me all the reasons I’m good at what I do?” Sometimes you just need a little evidence. Sometimes you need to look at yourself through someone else’s lens, because their lens of you is often clearer than your lens of yourself.
#3 – Living in your power.
There are some days when it feels like you’re getting further and further away from your power—the power that keeps you in peace and the driver’s seat of your life instead of a victim of your life. Things like COVID or social injustice or an unexpected death of a loved one can throw you into the passenger seat or the backseat or even the trunk. I want you to know that it is your birthright to climb out of that truck, climb out of the backseat, scoot over from the passenger seat and get back into the driver’s seat and declare, “This is my life and I get to run it from the beginning until the end.”
The strategy I use to live in my power is to find a tribe of high-conscious cheerleaders. Make sure they are high-conscious thinkers. Low conscious thinkers will always want you to keep them company. Get your cheerleaders that are going to require you to stand in your greatness. These cheerleaders can reflect back to you what they see when you are in your most powerful space. Then, you can rinse and repeat. I always ask for feedback. Leaders, gladiators and unicorns always do because we take that feedback and apply it. Because that’s how we grow.
Remember this show is not a monologue. It’s a dialogue and here we have juicy, courageous conversations. I love reading your comments and seeing you engage with one another. It makes my heart sing. So please, share with me your biggest #BOL (breakthrough out loud) or #AHA moment in the comments below. What hit home for you? Are you dancing in your power right now? Or do you feel like you slid out of your power and are in the passenger seat? Was this the reminder you needed to move back into the driver’s seat?
I love you…I believe in you…and will always be your sister in prosperity and possibility,