Replace Negative Self Talk with Self Love
We all have that little nagging voice inside our heads. You know what I’m talking about—that voice that whispers:
- You’re not good enough.
- You’re not smart enough.
- You’re not pretty enough.
- You’re too old… or too young.
- No one will believe in you.
- No one will support your dream.
That voice may come from inside your head, but let me tell you right now: it’s not telling you the truth. That voice is not you. It’s simply a survival mechanism—your brain trying to keep you safe by keeping you small. But you weren’t put on this earth to play small!
Self-Love is About Owning Your Worth
Self-love isn’t about ignoring your flaws; it’s about embracing your worth and value, honoring all the beautiful qualities you have alongside your imperfections. It’s not about keeping score but about caring for yourself as you navigate life’s journey.
Because your brain is wired for survival, it will say things like:
- Don’t take risks.
- Don’t trust that relationship.
- Don’t believe in your own greatness.
It’s trying to protect you, but your soul—your essence—wants to thrive. It wants you to live boldly, love deeply, and step into your divine assignment. That’s why self-love is about shutting down those lies and replacing them with truth.
How to Silence Negative Self-Talk
Negative self-talk doesn’t just disappear overnight, but you can take away its power. Here’s how:
1. Recognize It
You can’t change something you don’t acknowledge. So, start by recognizing the negative thoughts when they arise. Are you telling yourself that you’ll never succeed? That you’re not worthy? Bring those thoughts into the light, because anything operating in the dark loses its power.
2. Challenge It
Ask yourself, Is this really true? More often than not, the answer will be a resounding NO. When I used to hear my inner voice say, Lisa, you’re ugly, I couldn’t immediately replace it with, Lisa, you’re beautiful. That felt too far out of reach. So instead, I told myself, God made me unique, and no one else has my unique beauty.
So, when you hear that negative voice, replace it with a thought that feels true for you in this moment—one that affirms your worth.
3. Set Healthy Boundaries
Self-love also means setting boundaries—not just with others, but with yourself. When negative self-talk starts creeping in, set a firm boundary: I will not allow this lie to take root in my mind. Prioritize your needs so you can show up as your best self for those who count on you.
You Are Enough—Right Now
Let me remind you of something powerful: You woke up enough.
- You woke up smart enough.
- You woke up wise enough.
- You woke up bold enough.
- You woke up worthy enough.
No matter what happens today, you are already enough. You are worthy of love and respect—first and foremost from yourself.
Your Past Does Not Define You
I want to leave you with this: no matter where you come from, no matter what you’ve been through, you have the power to rewrite your story. It doesn’t matter what your chapter 4 looks like—you just have to keep writing until you get to chapter 24.
I did it, and so can you. Your past does not define you. It prepares you.
So today, choose love over self-doubt. Choose belief over fear. Choose to silence the negative self-talk and step into the bold, powerful, limitless version of yourself.
Until next time, know that I am your sister in prosperity and possibility. And yes, I’m going to say it again: I believe in you, and I love you. Why? Because I do.
See you soon!
Your Sister in Prosperity & Possibility,
Thank you Queen Lisa Nichols for the encouragement still in therapy however I see a light, thanks for the love will watch video .
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I needed this…
Thank you, Lisa!
You seem to always show up at the right moment when I need to be reminded of who I am. I love you and thanks for being you.
Words of wisdom from a great woman. Thank you Losa
I believe in you great message!
I needed this today! Thanks for your words of wisdom.
Lisa iI travelled the journey with you amongst others in 2016-23. I was achievinv a lot however along the way. Emotionally, Spiritually, Physically. I allowed people into my space. I did not believe the beautiful things for myself,or sipping into the new abundance me.