Celebrating Love from the Inside Out
It’s Valentine’s Day this week—a day to celebrate love…and not just romantic love but all kinds of love—sibling love, family love, pet love, friendship love.
Love is a big topic, but this week we’re gonna dive in because I believe that love doesn’t come from the outside–love is a reflection of how you’re currently loving yourself.
Now I don’t know about you, but that was one of the biggest things for me to learn—that the way I love myself was going to be a mirror for the way other people loved me. I couldn’t really get that concept in 1994 or 1997 or even in 2000. I thought that other people would love me so much that it would help me love myself.
But now I know it DOESN’T WORK that way. Now I know that others can only love you when you love yourself. Now I know YOU are the best example of how it feels to love you.
So, let’s be kind to ourselves. Let’s begin to look at not just our to-do lists but look at our “to-done” list and celebrate ourselves for all the things we’ve done. Feel a love like you’ve never felt before for you–even if it feels a little self-indulgent. Because when you can fill yourself up with love, all of a sudden love pours out of you to give to others.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
What is your love relationship between you and your siblings or other family members?
Are you in a romantic relationship? If so, how does it feel?
Have you taken stock of your love relationship with friends?
How are you living in love?
What are the ways you show love?
How are you allowing yourself to be loved?
I always say, love is an action. Love is not static. It is not a NOUN. It’s a VERB. Notice all the love nuggets that are all around you…from your pets, your friends, your colleagues, your family, your significant other.
If you’re looking for the energy of love to COME to you, then the energy of love must EMANATE from you and overflow. And if it requires you to do something you’ve never done before, or something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable, heck do it for love!
I coach people all the time who are looking for love. And I always say, “You’re looking for love, but how prepared are you for your greatest love?” Even to up-level an existing relationship, ask yourself, “What do I want right now? What looks and feels great to me? What does great love feel like to me?”
Then, be an example of what that looks like on the giving end. Give great love to yourself and others.
Am I ready to receive great love or will I deflect it?
Will I become too busy to even see it?
Am I protecting myself from love because I don’t want to get hurt?
I challenge you to focus on love. Give me 30 days, 40 days, 90 days of just focusing on love. See love wherever you go. Feel love all around you. Give yourself love every day.
Then, please let me know how it goes and share your thoughts and experience noticing love in the comments below.
Remember, this is your home. We are your tribe. And when I say I LOVE you and I BELIEVE in you, it’s for one reason. BECAUSE I DO.
Your Sister in Prosperity and Possibility,